Romance in the Workplace
Posted November 13, 2009on:
What is it about the work force and the opposite sex??? For some reason, women and men who can, and do make friends easily with people of the same sex, just tend to form boarderline inappropriate relationships with opposite sexes. A woman could have a perfectly friendly and fair female boss, but that same woman would develop a personal and flirty relationship with a male boss or co-worker. I am not sure if they see him as a father figure, or an unattainable romantic interest, but women do things for a male boss that they would never do for a female boss; cook for him, confide in him about the troubles she’s with her man, do more work than what is required, and very efficiently too. If a female boss were to ask any of those things to her female employee she would be met with a resounding “no!”
Is it because of the sexist culture that is so embedded in all facets of this country that women make consessions for their male bosses, and almost assume the role of wife, even in the workplace? It is not difficult to see how a man could have an affair with a female employee; if she is fulfilling the duties that he expects of his wife (only in the workplace, and not in the home) he finds in his workplace wife characteristics that are attractive to him, additionally, she, as his employee, supports him, in a way that a wife does. So many movies, including Obsessed, which is an updated version of an old favorite, Fatal Attraction, play on this chemistry that exists within the workplace, but ignore the sexist undertones.
While the employee and the employer are very attractive people, and a physical attraction seems obvious, the fact that they assume the stereo-typical role is what allows room for the affair; he is masculine and demanding, and virtually insensitive to all her feelings, and she is happily submissive, taking on extra work to please him, when he will be the only one who truly benefits from her efficiency.
Men too, might persue a woman in the workplace that they might not ordinarily be able to have romantic interactions with were it not for the fact that they have a working friendship. If a beautiful woman works and develops a friendship with a less attractive man than she, but she enjoys his company, his sentiments, and his willingness to do some of her work for her, or, if she relies on the completion of his job in order for her to do her own, and he is efficient in his work, she would likely find his reliablity attractive, and he makes her job less daunting. It is unlikely that he is as hard-working as he seems, but he is doing so to win her over, and it is usually effective.
The workplace is undoubtedly a dangerous place for people in committed relationships, it can be more tempting than a strip club (because at least then you know what you are and are not getting), but in the work place, there’s no telling how far the other person is willing to go, and curiosity is a deadly killer…….